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REASONS TO GIVE YOURSELF 3RD PERSON FEEDBACK
- Promotes self-awareness
- Increases self-confidence
"3rd person feedback" is a self coaching technique. It includes a thinking break at the end of the day where you self-assess.
You think of yourself in the 3rd person, which helps make your feedback more objective and less emotional.
Feedback doesn't come as timely or as often as you'd like. Your boss is busy and isn't aware of your day-to-day progress.
When you're self-coaching, you have to give yourself feedback. Like any feedback, it has to be accurate, timely and consistent.
Your inner-voice will offer feedback, but don't fall for it! The feedback it gives is often based on thinking traps. These feedback errors include -
- Feedback that agrees with how you feel
- Feedback that supports what you already believe
- Feedback that isn't balanced
Your inner-coach needs to provide you with objective, non-emotional and balanced feedback.
Schedule a thinking break for the end of the day. It doesn't need to be long, 15 minutes will do. You can hack into an existing routine like your evening commute.
You think yourself as "he" or "she" and refer to your day "his" or "her". You can even refer to yourself by name.
There are two questions your inner-coach should focus on - 1.) Is he/she thinking about things the right way? and 2.) Is he/she doing what they need to do?
If you're thinking clearly and acting appropriately, then you can trust that you're headed in the right direction. If you're not, then you need to course correct ASAP.
When your inner-coach kicks in, make sure it's empathetic and compassionate. Your best teachers treated you that way, and so should your inner-coach.
It's easy to be self-critical. A common thinking trap is adjusting your thoughts to fit your feelings. Just because you feel unproductive doesn't mean you were unproductive!