Five (5) psychological facts to consider -
- Research shows that people are calmer anticipating pain than uncertainty.
- This is why people tend to conceptualize threats.
- People pin their hopes of happiness to fulfilled expectations.
- People engage in "should, ought, must" thinking
- Relationships help people cope with uncertainty
How our minds deal with uncertainty -
- Our minds crave certainty - but why?
- Because we equate uncertainty with danger.
- So how do we cope with uncertainty?
- Our brain makes up untested stories.
- The stories usually assume a worse case scenario - but why?
- We're actually calmer anticipating pain than uncertainty!
A real life example -
- "If I can just keep this job I'll be okay" (expectation)
- "They should/ought/must see my value" (thinking trap)
- "But I don't have as much tenure as the others" (conceptual threat)
- "So I bet I get furloughed" (anticipate pain)
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