Five (5) psychological facts to consider - 

1. Research shows that people are calmer anticipating pain than uncertainty. 
2. This is why people tend to conceptualize threats. 
3. People pin their hopes of happiness to fulfilled expectations. 
4. People engage in "should, ought, must" thinking 
5. Relationships help people cope with uncertainty

How our minds deal with uncertainty - 

• Our minds crave certainty - but why?
• Because we equate uncertainty with danger. 
• So how do we cope with uncertainty? 
• Our brain makes up untested stories.
• The stories usually assume a worse case scenario - but why? 
• We're actually calmer anticipating pain than uncertainty! 

A real life example - 

• "If I can just keep this job I'll be okay" (expectation)
• "They should/ought/must see my value" (thinking trap) 
• "But I don't have as much tenure as the others" (conceptual threat)
• "So I bet I get furloughed" (anticipate pain)

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