"The opposite of the 'grit reflex' is something called the 'quit reflex'.
- People with the quit reflex have unrealistic expectations.
- They don't plan for setbacks and they get caught off guard.
- They think adversity is permanent, pervasive, and personal. So they lose confidence.
- They assume the worse, think emotionally, and withdraw.
- They become defensive, cynical, and make excuses.
- They're impatient and look for quick fixes.
- They commiserate and take comfort with other quitters.
- And people with the quit reflex tend to become quiet quitters.
The quit reflex, like the grit reflex, is a personality trait. But remember, anyone can develop grit. It just takes practice.
- If someone has the quit reflex, help them reframe the challenge.
- Set more realistic expectations and connect them with other gritty colleagues.
- When adversity strikes, you want to be their safe space and their practice partner.
- Introduce the resilient mindset and develop step-by-step recovery plans.
When people are struggling and they begin to lose hope, quitting is always an option. But the grit reflex is the only positive way forward. Remember -
- Grit is a habit, but so is quitting.
- Grit gets easier with practice, but so does quitting.
So teach the difference, coach the difference, and role model the difference."
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